How can I get along with my siblings? (Part 2)

Hi there, can you still remember what I talked about in part 1? Basically, I talked about how problems between siblings are like pimples and that to fix 'em we need to treat the under-lying cause, not to attack the symptom. Part 2 is basically about how we can really resolve or avoid getting into a fight or conflict with our siblings.

Of course, identifying the under-lying issues you have with a sibling is only part of the solution. What can you do to resolve an issue and avoid a future confrontation?

There is a frustrating of plans where there is no confidential talk. To help avoid frustration, look back to what you indicated caused the conflict between you and your sib. See if together you can work out some rules that you both agree on and that address the under-lying issue. For example, If you clash over possessions, Rule 1 could be: "Always ask before taking an item that belongs to someone else."

Rule 2 could be: "Respect a sibling's right to say, 'No, you can't use that item.'" When making these rules, think about what the Bible says "All things, therefore, that you want men to do to you, you also must likewise do to them." (Matthew 7:12). That way you will make rules that both you and your sibling can live by. Then check with  your parents to make sure that they approve of your agreement.

Abide by the rules yourself, do you teach one thing and do another thing? In other-words, do you teach 'Do not steal,' and you steal?. How can we apply that principle? If you want your sibling to respect your privacy, for instance, then you likewise need to knock before entering your sibling's room or ask before reading his or her e-mail or text messages. Also, don't be quick to take offense. "Only fools get angry and hold grudges." so the Bible says. If you're easily offended, your life will be miserable. Yes, your sibling will do or say things that upset you. But ask yourself, 'Have I done something like that to him or her in the past?' When I was 8, I thought that my opinion was the most important and must be heard. My sister is now going through a similar stage, so I try not to get upset, so can your sibling.

Serious problems need to be discussed and resolved. But must you call your sibling to account for every mistake he or she makes? God appreciates it when you are willing to "pass over transgression." If you and your sibling can't resolve an important issue, your parents can help you make peace. Remember, though, that the ability to resolve conflict without appealing to your parents is a measure of genuine maturity. Also, you can appreciate your siblings' good qualities. Your siblings likely have qualities that you admire. Rather than obsess about your siblings' faults, why not find an opportunity to tell them what it is that you admire about them.?

Fact of life: When you leave home, you will at times be surrounded by people who irritate you - classmates, workmates and others who are rude, insensitive, and selfish. Home is the place to learn to deal peaceably with such challenges. If you have a brother or sister who is difficult to get along with, take a positive view. That sibling is helping you to develop valuable life skills!

Your brother and your sister might not be the closest companion you will have, but you can strengthen your friendship with your siblings  if you "continue putting up with one another," even when they give you valid cause for complaint. If you do so, your  siblings are likely to become less irritating to you. And you may even annoy them less!

I hope you enjoyed this, I'd really love to know what you think about this blog, so please leave your comment or e-mail me at amjujos@gmail.com. Thank you for reading.